Thursday, 18 December 2014

Climbing The Kindness Ladder © by Irina Serban




Four years have passed since you're here, by my side, in this writing journey. This day, four years ago, I posted my first writing online after so many years of completely ignoring my calling. 
This day, every year, I write a few words not only for celebrating that beginning, but also for assessing all the lessons the past year offered to me. 
At the end of 2014, I choose to speak about kindness, aloneness and finding the inner strength to overcome hardships, disappointment, loss. I feel these lessons were the core of every happening in my life for the past year. 

About Kindness

Sometimes, it's hard to be kind. The dark side is always easier to make your own because it comes hand in hand with so many excuses: ‘she forgot my birthday’, ‘he never helped me when in need’, ‘she doesn't understand me’, ‘he doesn't care, why should I’, etc. Yet, kindness always pays off!
I think every one of us is born with the need of and thirst for light, and that thirst is quenched only when we are kind. That's when we feel at peace, and we go to sleep with a smile on our lips irrespective of the pits surrounding us, or the negative feelings luring us. By choosing kindness over the so-easy meanness we tilt the scale in favour of positive feelings and actions and reactions, for nothing we do or think goes unnoticed or without effect. No, it's not mumble jumble! It is true! Have you noticed that when something bad happens it seems as if it comes with a suite of other fastidious happenings? I'm sure you did! We all call them bad luck, bad day, bad month, bad year, but in fact, it's only bad thoughts and actions on our part. We don't know how to or are resistant to changing things in our favour, to choosing positive thoughts and to walking hand in hand with hope.
There's always an invisible force that sets things in equilibrium. Like attracts like! Many have talked about it in many forms: 

1. “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” (Isaac Newton - physicist)

2. “Shallow men believe in luck or in circumstance. Strong men believe in cause and effect.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson (transcendentalist essayist, poet, lecturer)

3. “We cannot live for ourselves alone. Our lives are connected by a thousand invisible threads, and along these sympathetic fibers, our actions run as causes and return to us as results.”  ― Herman Melville (novelist, short story writer, poet)

4. "All good that a person does to another returns three fold in this life; harm is also returned three fold." - The Three Fold Law (Wiccan Rede)

So, why not choosing kindness? It does good to one's soul, and it comes back one hundred per cent. I know it for sure! I felt it, too, especially this year. Out of nowhere, people from all corners of the world, people I never met in everyday life, sent me gifts for Christmas, a special time of the year for me.  Through their gifts, I read a kind note from the Universe: “Be good! Don't let the incidents of life transform your heart in stone!” Noted! And acted upon accordingly! Who am I to contradict the universal law? Again, I realized that—I know I obsessively say this in my writings, but it's true!—we’re never lonely!

About Aloneness

Aloneness is not the same with loneliness. You are lonely when no one is with you. You are alone when your soul is meandering in the vast world inside searching for answers, or floating through the sceneries outside letting them speak. When alone, we aren't necessarily unaccompanied. 
Some people shun aloneness, constantly searching for company. Yet, there are situations when we have to be alone, liking it or not liking it. I for one enjoy it, search for it and need it. Yet, this year, I realized that, maybe, in the life of each of us, there comes a time when we'd rather not be alone, but we have to. What do we do then, when we have no one to comfort us, to hold our hand, no shoulder to cry on, no one to help us pick up the pieces not because there's no one there, but because they cannot live the experience we're living, they cannot feel what we're feeling, they cannot even understand what we're going through. What if we're living an experience that is similar to, let's say, going through surgery: you're alone in the surgery section, you have to find a way of overcoming your fear, a way of fighting the side effects of drugs, a way of healing and gaining forces on your own. No one can do it for you! And in life there are many "surgical" moments. What do we do then? We need to find the inner strength!

About Inner Strength

When we love life, the inner strength is easy to find and to bring into light. When we love ourselves, again, it's easy. When we love others (friends, family, pets), it's easy. So, you see, inner strength is not something that should be educated or trained into being. It is there, shining, waiting to be accessed whenever we need it. It never dies out, it never gets weak! We get lost and don't know how to find it. And the answer is so simple: through Love. 

Be kind, my friends, climb that ladder of kindness resting assured that you're never lonely, and let your inner strength help you through whatever hardships you have to overcome right now! 

Thank you for being part of my journey for four years!

Happy Holidays!



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Wednesday, 10 December 2014

Dawning © by Irina Serban






Movement, agitation, new days start once with the dawn. Nature stretches from its sleep: the sun rises, flowers open their petals, birds start singing, people jostle to work and busy markets, so on and so forth. Chatter, noise, cars, laughter envelop the day as a thin mantle. The dawning of new beginnings is right there in front of us.

I wonder: are we really awake when not sleeping? Are we really present when the dawn drags its train made of light all over our world? Are we truly willing to do something different, to start new things, new lives? Or is it that we're more asleep than at night? Aren't we on automatic pilot? Smile, say hello, buy the newspaper, drink your coffee, send the mails, be nice with the boss, ignore that colleague, drive your car, do the shopping, cook, take a shower, go to sleep. Where's Life in all that? Where's Being Alive? It dawned on me... No, better said, it “nighted” on me--and I'll explain you why the use of such a term as a short parenthesis.

(Do you think that, during the day, we are more aware of our presence in the world, of our actions, of our why's and how to's? No, it isn't! It's at night, when we are alone with ourselves, and our thoughts, and our feelings that we fully acknowledge the substance, the sap of our lives. Night leaves us without cover, unveiling the darkest secrets about ourselves to us. Night is the only moment when we have no choice but to be completely honest: no more hiding, no more pretending. Night urges us to drop the masks, and we do it naturally, willingly. If what you see at night coincides with what you are at dawn, then, you're among the lucky ones.)

Turning back to my previous thought, I chose the coined expression "it nighted on me" because it is during the night that we see things clearly, and not at dawn with all the blinding light stinging our eyes, when the same light makes us feel naked and magnifies our shortcomings triggering our natural response of covering them with layers upon layers of pretence for no one else to notice them.

So, where's the Life in all the torment of one day, in all the actions we perform as simulated entities? It “nighted” on me that it happens in between, in the void between our commanded actions when a certain silence and predisposition to dreaming with eyes wide open take the lead even if for a short while. That's when we feel, and by feeling we become alive. In our hurried lives, something inside makes us notice a small bird chirping, a ray of sun playing on the ground and making funny colours on a dewdrop, a cloud shaping itself like a heart, etc. That's when we are alive and truly awake, as awake as during the night when alone. Those moments are the dawning, or sorry, the "nighting" of a new you. 

                        Good night!

© Copyright 2014 Irina Serban. All rights reserved   




Wednesday, 3 December 2014

A Wolfosopher's Declaration © by Irina Serban





1. We are guides. Whoever wants to join our pack, after further testing, is welcome. Those who don't want to are respected. Those who go against us trying to intimidate us are eaten.

2. We, as members of a pack, claim that we'll never ever forget who we are or give up our individuality. Those who follow blindly are not wolves, but sheep in wolf fur. And what do we do with sheep? We eat them!

3. Mother Nature endowed us with the same qualities: keen eyes, good hearing, beautiful fur, etc. But if any of us thinks he's got the same eyes, the same hearing, the same fur as any of the other members of the pack, is eaten.

4. We are territorial. The land belongs to all, and there’s enough for each of us. We should be allowed to benefit of the gifts Mother Nature so generously offers to us. Those who disrespect Nature and universal laws should get ready to be… eaten.

5. We are skilled healers. An unclean wound never heals. Yet, while purging it from dust and unnecessary filth, we might bite. If you can't stand bites, then, prepare to be eaten.

6. We are great hunters. The success of a hunting session depends upon long years of training and learning to listen to our intuition. We never hunt recklessly. If you think you can obtain great loot without work and failure and work again, then, you'll be eaten. The same applies in your case for easy gained meat through cheating on the teachings and morals of the pack.

7. We love to rest and play. If you think that we're wasting time and do nothing, then, you'll be eaten, for it is in resting and playing that we gain insight, force to keep going, and time to assess our lessons.

8. We are teachers. There are those who listen and strive, those who listen and are ungrateful, those who listen and betray, those who listen and fail. Their success is not up to our teachings, but up to their perseverance. And as everything has a price, their turning their backs on their inner power ends with them being eaten.

8. We are strong, but there's one thing stronger than us: death. That's when we all stay at the same table and wait to (no, not to be eaten! How on earth can you think that?), we wait to start the celebration of the good life we lived and roam merrily to a place where we can watch over you until we find the right moment to come back and... follow you! (Again thinking about eating? Oh, I wonder how that got into your mind! I never said wolves would eat you! Don’t you believe me? Go and read this again!)



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