Four years have passed since you're here, by my side, in this writing journey. This day, four years ago, I posted my first writing online after so many years of completely ignoring my calling.
This day, every year, I write a few words not only for celebrating that beginning, but also for assessing all the lessons the past year offered to me.
At the end of 2014, I choose to speak about kindness, aloneness and finding the inner strength to overcome hardships, disappointment, loss. I feel these lessons were the core of every happening in my life for the past year.
Sometimes, it's hard to be kind. The dark side is always easier to make your own because it comes hand in hand with so many excuses: ‘she forgot my birthday’, ‘he never helped me when in need’, ‘she doesn't understand me’, ‘he doesn't care, why should I’, etc. Yet, kindness always pays off!
I think every one of us is born with the need of and thirst for light, and that thirst is quenched only when we are kind. That's when we feel at peace, and we go to sleep with a smile on our lips irrespective of the pits surrounding us, or the negative feelings luring us. By choosing kindness over the so-easy meanness we tilt the scale in favour of positive feelings and actions and reactions, for nothing we do or think goes unnoticed or without effect. No, it's not mumble jumble! It is true! Have you noticed that when something bad happens it seems as if it comes with a suite of other fastidious happenings? I'm sure you did! We all call them bad luck, bad day, bad month, bad year, but in fact, it's only bad thoughts and actions on our part. We don't know how to or are resistant to changing things in our favour, to choosing positive thoughts and to walking hand in hand with hope.
There's always an invisible force that sets things in equilibrium. Like attracts like! Many have talked about it in many forms:
1. “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” (Isaac Newton - physicist)
2. “Shallow men believe in luck or in circumstance. Strong men believe in cause and effect.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson (transcendentalist essayist, poet, lecturer)
3. “We cannot live for ourselves alone. Our lives are connected by a thousand invisible threads, and along these sympathetic fibers, our actions run as causes and return to us as results.” ― Herman Melville (novelist, short story writer, poet)
4. "All good that a person does to another returns three fold in this life; harm is also returned three fold." - The Three Fold Law (Wiccan Rede)
So, why not choosing kindness? It does good to one's soul, and it comes back one hundred per cent. I know it for sure! I felt it, too, especially this year. Out of nowhere, people from all corners of the world, people I never met in everyday life, sent me gifts for Christmas, a special time of the year for me. Through their gifts, I read a kind note from the Universe: “Be good! Don't let the incidents of life transform your heart in stone!” Noted! And acted upon accordingly! Who am I to contradict the universal law? Again, I realized that—I know I obsessively say this in my writings, but it's true!—we’re never lonely!
Aloneness is not the same with loneliness. You are lonely when no one is with you. You are alone when your soul is meandering in the vast world inside searching for answers, or floating through the sceneries outside letting them speak. When alone, we aren't necessarily unaccompanied.
Some people shun aloneness, constantly searching for company. Yet, there are situations when we have to be alone, liking it or not liking it. I for one enjoy it, search for it and need it. Yet, this year, I realized that, maybe, in the life of each of us, there comes a time when we'd rather not be alone, but we have to. What do we do then, when we have no one to comfort us, to hold our hand, no shoulder to cry on, no one to help us pick up the pieces not because there's no one there, but because they cannot live the experience we're living, they cannot feel what we're feeling, they cannot even understand what we're going through. What if we're living an experience that is similar to, let's say, going through surgery: you're alone in the surgery section, you have to find a way of overcoming your fear, a way of fighting the side effects of drugs, a way of healing and gaining forces on your own. No one can do it for you! And in life there are many "surgical" moments. What do we do then? We need to find the inner strength!
About Inner Strength
When we love life, the inner strength is easy to find and to bring into light. When we love ourselves, again, it's easy. When we love others (friends, family, pets), it's easy. So, you see, inner strength is not something that should be educated or trained into being. It is there, shining, waiting to be accessed whenever we need it. It never dies out, it never gets weak! We get lost and don't know how to find it. And the answer is so simple: through Love.
Be kind, my friends, climb that ladder of kindness resting assured that you're never lonely, and let your inner strength help you through whatever hardships you have to overcome right now!
Thank you for being part of my journey for four years!
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